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Updated 9/08 [F] I can heartily recommend the purple wireless remote bullet. I love it!!!!!!!!! I just received mine I ordered from ebay. It is a remote control egg which is waterproof. The remote works up to 25" away. She can wear it with you behind her and keep surprising her. I just love mine. Here is their web site I Heart Adult

Updated 7/08 [M 63] This is sort of a toy I guess. I use a transparent acrylic tube placed on the lens of a video camera to help in emptying my penis. It helps by allowing me to watch as it becomes more and more erect. And there's a certain beauty to seeing it move in and out of the tube. When it is time for the semen to flow out, I watch closely to see it spew out of the little hole. I could watch that for hours on end. And having it on video tape certainly helps to set the mood among a select few of my friends. Turns out that creative close up semen scenes, are attractive to more people than would be imagined. It takes that intense and fleeting instant, and makes it a bigger part of my life. And it certainly is pretty to see.

Updated 7/08 [M] I was reading your section on toys. I also enjoy toys in the ass, and cock rings. I suppose the clamps used on my nipples and scrotum would also be considered toys. Someone mentioned the Feeldo, and I do like that. For solo use, it is just the right size in my ass for masturbation enhancement. And, we like it with the bulb in my ass, and doing a double penetration on the lady. I really enjoy having a woman do my ass with it.
I put a butt plug in, when doing work around the house, and many times when I go to town. I enjoy the experience of having a toy in my ass when around strangers, and having conversations with them.
A occasionally take a dildo with me to town, and when at a stop light next to a woman, will put it in my mouth, and deep throat it. I have never got a look of disgust, generally receiving a big smile. I also have a pump up butt plug, and really enjoy inflating it as far as possible.

[M 49] My wife loves it when she uses her “pocket rocket” vibrator on her clitoris while I fuck her with her dildo. Lying back on our bed, legs spread wide with her ass propped up on a pillow allows me easy access to fucking her and a great view. She has a wonderfully large “flesh like” dildo that looks and feels like the real thing. Once she gets herself wet with the vibrator I slip the dildo between her pussy lips and fuck her to orgasm. There is nothing that turns me on more then seeing her climax with that huge dildo buried in her cunt and she says that the combination of the vibrator and dildo give her the most intense orgasms she has ever experienced. And I have found out that size really does matter as she loves the fucking that the 9 inches of dildo now gives her.

Updated 5/08 [M] It was bed time on a Friday night. I told my wife that I was craving her pussy and that I was really thirsty to taste her delicious pussy nectar. She has always insisting on being clean (recently showered) for me to eat her pussy. I always told her, that it didn't matter to me if she had showered or not. Her pussy had its own wonderful aroma that needed to be experienced as naturally as possible. I had always lost that argument with her until now. She said that she was too tired to go have a shower that night and that it was getting late...
I rubbed her back to get her relaxed first. Then I urged her and eased her out of her panties. I rubbed her legs and thighs ...slowly moving my hand between her legs.. Soon I was rubbing her entire crotch... gently at first and then concentrating on her clit. This time... she said she was ready for her vibrator. I went and grabbed it from the dresser and started using it on her clit. I asked her to take over the vibrator in her hand. She held it in her right hand and rubbed it against her clit in circles... and was moaning.
Without warning, I laid down and placed my head between her legs watching the vibrator work its magic on her. Then, I slowly moved my face closer to this wild frenzy of vibratiions and pink flesh. I stuck my head in the region and stuck my tounge out and started licking the lips underneath the vibrator... I could feel the vibrations transfer to my tongue and face as I continued to lick...
Her first reaction was to tell me to stop because she was afraid about not having recently showered (she had showered in the morning). I told her to relax and just concentrate on her pleasure. The truth was that she was really enjoying this.. a lot more than using simply the vibrator or having me simply eat her out... this was a COMBINATION of the two!! I on the other hand felt like this experience was like never before! Her pussy tasted fantastic... so natural... probably mixed up with a little residual of her beautiful golden wine...mmm delicious.... I told her it was much better than a totally clean pussy... her juices were all aroused...and she was thrashing all over/... this double stimulation had accelerated her arousal and I knew that she was going to climax early this time... It literally put her over the edge... she moaned and said she was cuminggggg....
I kept on flicking my tongue and sucking everything that came out of that holy hole! She climaxed and came hard and took her vibrator off.... I dug in with free reign and sucked and licked like there was no tomorrow... All this had made my cock rock hard.After her intense orgasm, she then asked me to fuck her good with my cock... and I did just that. I fucked and dumped my cum in that hot warm moist pussy and then savored the delicious pussy juice and aroma in my mouth for the entire night. I had a wonderful, peaceful, good night's sleep and I attributed it to that sweet pussy nectar!

Updated 7/07 [M] As I continue to read the many stories on your website, I just wanted to add my two cents to any discussion regarding sex toys. I think they are just great!
I've been using them for years and they never cease to excite me. Like everything else in life, some are good, some are not so good and some are incredible. Most vibrators make me climax too quickly, albeit they are truly wonderful. Personally I prefer dildos or dongs, whatever is the correct name for them. The ones they offer today are much better than what used to be available. My current favorite is a replica of some xxx video star. It feels like real flesh, is very life like in proportion and is larger than anything real I have ever experienced. It never fails to fulfill my needs, alone or during sex with my husband. And the answer is a resounding NO, he is not intimidated by the size of my "toy". As I have gotten older, I must admit though, that "bigger" is better. For those that might wonder how much bigger is better, it's a fabulous 9 inches in length. And girls does it ever satisfy anything I could ever wish for (very happy smile!

Updated 4/07 [M] We wrote before about our experiences with using a double headed dildo with penetration of the male and the female on the other end. Well we were introduced to a Feeldo recently by some European friends and folks whoever designed this Feeldo they have a winner.
A lot of new doors have been thrown open and new exciting experiences both for me, the male and my wife. She suddenly discovered what was seemingly hiding itself that she liked domination of the male with anal penetration and a more fulfillment knowing she is excited and enjoying the act.
We position ourselves side by side and she lubes me having put a condom on the Feeldo . She inserts the bulbous end of the Feeldo in her and even that she likes as it feels full whilst I push back onto it and penetration…..right from the first time it slipped right in very very comfortable.
The Feeldo comes with a vibrator, it tickles the clit and the male feels it down the shaft inside him. She adds her regular vibrator to her sensitive clit and bingo the rockets start bursting all around with a fantastic orgasism .
Totally recommended Joan….. I suspect female to female must be great also we have not experienced that . Our friends are having a wedding anniversary soon you know what their present is going to be…… we are planning a Feeldo party.

Updated 2/07 [M] About 20 years ago, when my wife and I both worked, she told me she frequently used our vibrator after I left for work, which was usually about an hour before she left home. One of our couple friends told me he was troubled by the fact that his wife liked to use the vibrator. My reaction was the opposite. It turned me on to think of her, turned on sexually, using the vibrator. She told me she would not be troubled at all if she walked in and saw me masturbating. Now that we are both in our 70s, the vibrator is always a part of our sexual intercourse and sex play. Occasionally I use it with a cum cup. She says she seldom uses it alone, but it sure serves us well when we have sex together. Even at this age, she still sometimes has two or three orgasms. When we do this, she lies on her back, with her hips on a pillow. Using the scissors position, I lie on my left side and enter her pussy with my cock. With her hips elevated somewhat, it increases the probability of stimulating her G spot. This leaves her free to play the vibrator on her clitoris and lips as best moves her pleasure along. Hooray for the vibrator!

Updated 8/06 [M] Reading the story on your site about the guy who jacked off into his mouth for his wife made me want to write you also. My wife and I both like doing unusual things. I'd always wondered what my on cum tasted like, but was too chicken to try it... I'd think about tasting it after jacking off, or eating her pussy after unloading in her.... stuff like that. But, I'd never do it. Then I read a story a while back (might have been on your site.. LOL) about a guy who had his wife suck him off and drop the cum into his mouth (I've since learned the term is snowballing). The very idea gave me a hardon. So, I told the wife I wanted to try it.
About a week later, we were camping... there were people all around. We'd had a long day and went to the tent to lay down for a rest. When she started playing with my dick, I said "how about a blowjob". She said OK, and asked me if I wanted the load. The idea made me ready to unload on the spot. Anyway, I was hot enough that I only lasted maybe a couple of minutes in her mouth. She held it all in her mouth and even continued to milk everything out of me after I was finished pumping. She then pulled off of my dick and came up to me. She leaned over to kiss me and dropped the load in my mouth when she did.
The taste was very unusual, but not bad... just different. Since then, we've done that MANY times and discovered many other ways for her to 'give' me my own load. I love her swapping the load to me. Sometimes, they're fairly large loads and, like the guy in the story, I wonder how she held it all in her mouth.... I have to gulp a couple of times to get it all down. About a month ago, I got in the doggie position, so she could use a vibe on my ass while jacking me off... with one exception.
She put a small dish underneath me to catch whatever came from my dick.... pre-cum and cum. Like always, whenever she uses something to hit my prostate while working my dick, I shot a very large load. When she had everything milked out, I rolled over and sat up while she held the dish up to my mouth. I simply couldn't believe that I had cum that much. It took me four swallows to get everything down.... before licking the dish. Recently we bought a love swing. Actually, I hadn't thought about getting in it myself, I bought it for her to be in. But, when I noticed the way it adjusted so easily and gave access to anything you desire, it gave me an idea. I got in the swing and we adjusted it to where my ass was available for her to put something in, and my legs were spread wide and above my head. She worked on my ass slowly for a while, before pushing her 8" cyberskin into me. Without ever touching my dick, she fucked my ass for maybe 15 minutes, using differing fast and slow rhythms. I had pre-cum literary oozing from my cock... almost like I was cumming.
FINALLY, she pushed the dildo deep into me and held it there with her belly. She then lubed up both of her hands and started on my dick. Within what seemed like seconds, I shot a load that felt like it came from my toes. I have never experienced an orgasm like that in my life. We both knew right when I was fixing to unload, so she aimed it at my face and I opened my mouth. The first huge wad hit me on the cheek and she quickly adjusted the aim to my mouth. Then it started hitting me square in the mouth. I probably unloaded about 10 hard shots before they weren't shooting hard enough to hit my mouth anymore. During this time, she used a couple of fingers to wipe the first load from my cheek into my mouth. I'm not sure how many times I had to swallow, but it was a lot. What's worse was the amount that didn't make it to my mouth. It looked like two loads on my chest and stomach.
After I was spent, she spent the next several minutes using her hands to clean up what was on me and either dropping it into my mouth, or letting me lick it from her fingers... depending on the size of what she had in her hand. Anyway.... the other story just got me to thinking.... and remembering.....

Updated 7/06 [M 28] I really enjoy cockrings as they really enhance the size and hardness of my penis and I use a pump regularly (every day) to keep my penis plump. It seems that the pump made my penis bigger over time. And I've not been using it for a long time. My girlfriends love her tiny vibrating egg. Especially while I'm giving her oral sex...

Updated 11/05 [F] As you and many readers are probably aware there are commercial websites that feature mechanically operated dildos that show women being fucked with them and, I believe, you can purchase one of a range of machines with different features (speed, depth of stroke etc). Inevitably these are pretty expensive.
The machine I made is veRy simple, just an old windscreen wiper motor from a car, a 12 volt battery from a motorcycle, a short length of steel tube, drilled to accept a bolt that connects it to the arm of the wiper motor via a length of metal, rather like the connecting rod in a car engine. This serves to translate the rotation of the wiper motor into a back and forth thrusting movement. I found an old wooden box about 14x12x8 inches and installed the mechanism inside it. A couple of heavy duty switches, wire and fuses complete the circuit and we have a machine that although basic is capable of operating at windscreen wiper speeds, about 50 thrusts per minute on slow and 100 on fast.
It hasn't got the highly variable speeds of the commercial machines but 100 thrusts per minute seems to be just right. The machine has a Ty Fox realistic dildo which is very thick, about 7.5 inches around which at 100 thrusts per minute gives a pretty robust fucking, as you can imagine. Ten minutes of that is enough to have my baby coming several times over. The depth of stroke is 4 inches, again non adjustable without taking it all apart, but seems just right as my girlfriend can only take 6 inches of it inside her, it leaves just enough of it inside her on the outstroke to keep it from falling out. There you have it, my home made fucking machine, perfect for all us guys and gals with big cock fantasies...

Updated 4/05 [M] I was recently going through some boxes of stuff that my late wife had packed up when we moved to our new home. Most of them had a label that identified what was it a couple of them didn't have any writing on them. I started opening them and one had all her toys that I had bought her over the years. She had packed them for the move and never got to unpack them.
One of them caught my eye as it was the last one I had bought her. It was a life-like dildo that was 7 inches long and 2 inches in diameter. It was certainly larger than my own penis and I thought it might give her a thrill when I bought it. It also had a squeeze bulb attached to it that could be filled with liquid and it would squirt the fluid out the end just like a real penis. We never used that feature but just used the dildo for vaginal insertion.
One memorable time, I was unable to get it up again after two orgasms. She was still wanting more attention so I got out the new toy and slowly slid it into her very slick pussy. She was so wet after my two orgasms and her own wetness that it easily entered her up to the hilt. I stroked it in and out of her and massaged her hard little clit with my fingers until she had several more orgasms and told me that was all she could take. She was still breathing hard and her mouth was partly open when I slowly eased it out of her. I then took it and started rubbing it across her lips so she could taste her pussy and my cum. She sucked on the head and licked it for a while then took it from me and started doing the same to me. I sucked what I could off of it and I opened my mouth further so I could enjoy more of it. She pushed it all the way in to the back of my throat and started slowly fucking my mouth with it. Her head was right next to mine and she was watching my mouth as she slide it in and out. She told me that it was very sexy to watch me suck it and swallow my cum and that I would make a great cocksucker. That was one of my pet names for her and she liked being called that. Once she pushed it a little too far into my throat and I had to catch her hand and move it back a little to keep from gagging. She said that she had the same reaction when I pushed too far in her throat when she was sucking me off. I was so glad my actions hadn't turned her off and that she liked watching me swallow. She absolutely loved me to eat her after we had sex and didn't mind kissing me after she has sucked me off so I could taste it too.I was a lucky man.
While I was reliving that episode in my mind, I decided to suck it like I had before. I washed it and dried it and went to the bed and laid down and slid it in my mouth. Before long, I was fucking my mouth just like she had done before and was to the point that it was hitting the back of my throat and couldn't go any farther. I had a slight gagging motion and swallowed to ease the sensation and when I did it slid about another inch deeper. I swallowed again and it just popped all the way in up to the hilt. I held it there for a second or two and pulled it out. I couldn't believe what I had done. I usually can't brush my teeth without gagging. I lined it up again and sure enough with little effort it went all the way in again. I had deep throated! I got a small mirror and attached the suction cup on the base to it and watched myself swallow it again. I was fascinated and it actually felt pleasurable too. I went to the computer room and lined up the little camera that came with it and recorded myself swallowing it to the base.
By then, was very turned on and decided to carry out a fantasy I had wanted to do for a long time. I jacked off into a small cup and filled the suction cup attachment with my cum I set up the camera again and started recording while I slid the dildo into my mouth again. When it was all the way down my throat, I started squeezing the bulb and I could feel the cum squirting into my throat. I raised my head off of it until just the head was left in my mouth. I kept squeezing the bulb until all my cum was in my mouth. The taste was intoxicating and I swallowed it all. That was one of the most erotic things I've ever done. I watched the replay and it was just as exciting to watch because I knew what was happening when I watched myself squeezing the bulb again and again.
Since I'm single now and my outlets for sex are limited, I have had solo sex in many ways. This was the most erotic I've ever had. I think like most men, I lose the desire to taste my cum after orgasm but not this time. I have no desire to suck off a man or taste anyone else's cum but my own. Most of the time , I can control my fetish but sometimes it just gets the better of me. I can accept that and feel very lucky to have had a lover fed it and didn't think badly of it.

Updated 9/04 [M] As my wife has gotten older, now 57 years young, she has started purchasing and using larger dildos. Thankfully with age, my personal insecurities regarding her use and enjoyment of large dildos have long been put aside. This year she went on line and purchased a model sold by Doc Johnson, a full 9" soft skin dildo, incredibly realistic in both look and feel to a real cock, albeit more than slightly oversized in length and girth. The pleasure she derives from using this particular dildo is almost beyond my limited vocabulary. Once she is brought to a level of excitement, either by my or her own manipulations, she applies a generous amount of lubrication to her "Johnson" and while lying on her back in bed, slowly goes about inserting it between her pussy lips. Her own moistness in combination with the applied lubrication allows the dildo's head and a couple inches of shaft to slip inside her without much effort. Once in this position though, the girth of the dildo having stretched her opening substantially more than normal, requires that she use slow even pressure to force it deeper into her pussy.
By now, she is always quite excited, breathing deeper, legs spread wide, nipples appearing long and hard. As I watch, she begins pushing her dildo into her pussy in deliberate but slow strokes, resting every minute or so to allow for "fit". I can see her stretched cunt wrapped tightly around the shaft the deeper it goes. Her clitoris protrudes, aching to feel some touch of its own, from the pressure being put on her over stretched pussy lips. As the minutes pass she is able to push her dildo deeper, past the 5 inch point, the 6 inch point, soon just over 7 inches in. With her free hand she begins to caress her clit, soft moans escape from her lips, and finally but carefully she is now moving her dildo in and out of her pussy simulating fucking a cock. As her excitement grows towards orgasm, she spreads her legs as wide as possible, and begins thrusting her pelvis and hips in an upward motion to meet the continuous fucking of the large dildo now inside her. Her well lubricated dildo is once again moving deeper into her pussy.
In what seems like an eternity, but is in reality only 25 or 30 minutes, she now has the entire length of this incredible dildo cock buried in her extremely stretched cunt. She rests briefly, allowing a moment to fully feel the size of the dildo deep within her.
Her breathing is rapid, her moans are loud, and she is, between gasps, telling me "my god this is the biggest cock I've ever felt in my life", "I can barely stand the width of it in my cunt", "I've got to cum soon, it's to big to handle for much longer". She is furiously fingering her clit now. Her hips are bouncing off the mattress. Her legs are flaying. She has begun fucking herself in fast deep strokes, taking all 9 inches of this monstrous dildo deep into her pussy with each inward thrust. Within seconds she is screaming as loud as she can, "I'm cumming, I'm cumming", "Oh fuck I love this cock", " I love fucking my cunt with this cock", "It's so fucking hard, so fucking big, yes fuck me , fuck me, I'm cumming". I am always stunned at the intensity of her orgasm when she gets herself off with this dildo, she truly does disappear into another dimension. When her body shudders with it's last orgasmic rhythm, she collapses to the point of passing out, the dildo deep within her. After some time, she is able to wake enough to slowly and carefully withdraw her loved 9 inch dildo before a much deserved restful sleep overtakes her. Upon morning wake, she is always verbose about how good and strong her climax was and how incredible the dildo felt fucking her. How she has never "cum" that hard in her life until she started using this dildo. Further, she always inspects her dildo the morning after, running her fingers over it, wrapping her hands around it, marveling that she was able to take it's entirety into her pussy.

Updated 8/04 [M] Toys have been a part of our sex life for a long time. All varieties of dildos and vibrators. I highly recommend that those who do not use toys get into the habit of using them. I use them on my wife, she uses them on herself, it mattters not as she always has an incredible orgasm when one or more toys are in bed with us. She especially loves long life like dildos, the deeper they penetrate, the better she likes it. She'll orgasm with a dildo, then again while I perform oral on her clitoris, then again when I slide the dildo back in after she climaxs from my oral. She especially enjoys her 3rd climax in this situation. It is always her longest, and most intense orgasm. She tells me that she has never cum as hard as when she has a large dildo moving deeply in and out of her pussy. She says it grips her entire body, sending wave after wave of screaming pleasure through her. Many times after cumming she will fall asleep with the dildo buried inside, waking during the night aroused and wet again by the feel of it so hard inside of her.

Updated 7/04 [M] I just wanted to share about a new toy I've been enjoying. It's for a male and its called a fleshlight. It's available on Ebay. I love my new toy...it feels so real when I slide my cock in it and off course you need to use a water based lube to get the full effect. The other day I was fucking my cock with it and I put myself on the convulsing edge of cumming for fifteen minutes, that's after I had already been working my cock up for about twenty minutes. I love and have noticed that my logevity and frequency with my wife has improved since I started using it. She loves using it on me too and when she licks my balls while she thrusts it on my cock..well I explode with pleasure.

Updated 7/03 [M 40] Several years ago, I was visiting a dominatrix. I had gone to her previously, so she had ramped up the level of domination from my previous visits. Although I hadn't asked her to tie me up, in short order, I was standing before her in the nude, my hands tied securely behind my back. Since I had gone to her before, I trusted her to know that nothing really bad would happen, but I had no idea what to expect. I was hoping that she would throw me over the couch and rape me with a strap-on dildo.
Anyway, she left me for a minute and came up behind me. I heard a sharp snapping sound. She asked me what that might be, and I was not really sure. Since we had discussed her shaving my cock, I guessed that she may have snapping some scissors open and closed. My guess was wrong, but I didn't turn around to see.
She came up and put a gag securely over my mouth, leaving me utterly helpless. She finally lets me see the snapping device, and it looks like a miniature Electrical Storm lamp. I'd seen Electrical Storm lamps before and knew that they were harmless. Lots of violet colored electrical sparks inside a glass dome, but no shocks if you touch it. Secure in the knowledge that this was only for show, I relaxed. At the time, I had no idea that this was violet wand, a favorite torture device used by mistresses.
So she knelt in front of me, held the wand to the inside of my calf, and hit the switch. The violet spark came as expected but then continued out of the globe out to my skin. Good grief what a jolt! It hurt like hell. She then slowly worked it up my leg, held it to my inner thigh and zapped me again. Being tied up, gagged, and utterly naked, there was nothing to do but stand and take it. I guess she gagged me so that my screams wouldn't disturb the neighbors.
She hesitated a bit, probably to let the fear and anticipation build. She then grabbed the tip of my cock and pulled it towards her. A second later, she zapped me helplessly exposed scrotum. This was a lot worse that on my thigh. I was terrified, because a second later she zapped me on the tip of my penis which was the most intense of all.
Although the pain was intense, it was equally brief and caused no injury at all. After all is said and done, being tied up naked and tortured with the violet wand was intensely erotic. More so in that context than when she dildo raped me or shaved my cock, although that was sexy too..

Updated 4/03 [M 37] Enjoyed the story about the Ben Wa balls. My wife and I ordered some new toys from a company, one of the things we got was a set of them. Well, we inserted them then I slid in and we had a wonderful time.
Afterward we cuddled some, then my wife had to go to the restroom. Forgetting about the balls she went and sat down on the toilet. Suddenly we both heard a loud "clack" sound. She looked down to see one of the balls sliding down the bowl just as she'd pressed the flush lever! It made quite a noise as it went down the drain.
I did have fun fishing the other ball out of her body, but we never used it after that.
Another toy my wife bought me was one of those artificial pussies. She got it as a gag, and left it on my pillow one time when she and the kids went to visit her mom but I had to stay and work. It's basically a latex sleeve with lots of bumps inside, and at the opening it's got some molded rubber that kinda sorta looks like female vagina lips. Black felt was glued on to simulate hair.
Well, the joke was on her. Sure, it looks really stupid, but felt surprisingly good, and I spent the weekend filling it up with my cum! I still pull it out and use it from time to time.

Updated 10/02 [M 50] I'm a 50 year old, happily married male. My wife of 26 years and I have a very good sex life. About 3 or 4 years ago I introduced a small (5" plastic battery powered) vibrator into our love making. My wife was a bit taken a back, as she never used one and felt like it was a bit perverted. that's just the way she is (was). Well we would use it as foreplay maybe one out of every 5 times. Sometimes she would relax enough to really enjoy it, other times she would kind of resist and we'd just put it aside and finish up au naturale. Well, that was then. Now we have graduated into a larger7" version. We probably use it 75% of the time. Typically we'll start in foreplay, I'll rub, kiss, massage her back, a real turn on for my wife, and then after 5 or 10 minutes of that, I! 'll take the vibrator and start gently massaging her clit and labia. No entry, just let the vibrations do their things. With the vibrator held tightly between her legs I'll continue to kiss, massage other areas - neck, breasts, etc. The excitement will gradually build and that vibrator will bring her to some of the strongest orgasms she's ever had. Some times just with the vibrator itself - a real turn on for me,or sometimes while I'm in her (after the foreplay) the vibrator is placed on her clit. That and my thrusts really do the job. What a great addition to our sex life!

Updated 8/02 [M] My wife and I enjoy the using of a double headed dildo with peneatration in my anus and penetration in her . We are certainly not homosexual but we have found this a very exiciting type of sex to our satisfaction.
We use condoms on either end of the dildo and add X-jelly to ensure lubrication. It is interesting that my wife gets very turned on in the penetration process of me to the extent that she touches her nipples and clitoris almost to climax all of this before any penetration of herself. To achieve this I position myself with legs up and dildo and penis towards her....she confirms that the touch of my pubic hair on her clitoris and parts is exceptionally stimulating and with penetration, deep, and thrusting it is not long before she climacs. She finishes me off, still penetrating with her hand. We fantasize having another couple with us who would stimulate us both with a blow-job, cunnilingus and nipple stimulation. We are seriously thinking of taking that to reality! Has anyone done that?

And a follow-up from the same man You will recall my letter where I explained the great success my wife and I have developed from the use of a double headed dildo for male anal entry and female vagina entry - I suggested we were thinking about asking some of our very close friends, a couple, we have known well who are also nudists like us to join us in one of our sessions.
Well it happened and am happy to say the four of us had one great week-end,firstly in a nudist environment and secondly enjoying the pleasures of our use of a double headed dildo in a sort of female dominance scenario . Whow what a turn on for the girls! They said they never had such great sex!
This couple have been very close to us and we have previously had sex infront of them and likewise them with us - we enjoy nudity in each others homes and also at a nudist club we both are members so the transistion, although, yes a serious one was not too difficult especially as the subject of anal sex had come up many times before and we had told our friends what we do . I must admit they both were very curious and excited when we explained what we did.
The week-end started with us deciding to drive to our club together rather than in seperate vehicles, I told my wife this gave us an opportunity to raise the subject of them trying our pleasure idea . Oh it was not us who raised the matter but our friends. By the time we arrived at our club, a hour or so drive, all four of us were hot sexually so very soon after arriving at our nudist club,checking-in and getting settled in our townhouse, undressed etc., we realised that we were all ready to start the adventure. The other couple firstly surprised us as out of their bags came a new double headed dildo and then a strap-on one - we knew there was no way things could stop now but my wife and I had decided that we had better be careful to have rules and so we explained to our friends how we thought things should go.
As a foursome we had had sex infront of each other, petting and touching but no swapping so we immediately re-established that rule which our friends thought was good. We told them that we would go first and show them and invited them to be as personal as they would wish with us . The bed in our townhouse is an extra large one so the four of us had plenty of space and space for our toys which were lined up ready for use. Initially we petted each others spouse and the girls played with the men til the girls said they could not wait any longer and were begging for the action to start. My wife prepared our dildo, a condom on either end, added the lubrication to my anal area and slowly my wife edged the dildo in. Our friends could not hold back their excitement and were soon having intercourse as they watched us . Entry achieved my wife positioned herself infront of me and took the other end of the dildo quickly into her vagina and lay back wriggling her hips in a round motion pushing herself fully onto the dildo til when my pubic hair,testicles and base of my penis were right against her exciting her clitoris. She lasted a few minutes but not long - the preence of our friends touching us was just too much. Our friends having already climaxed moved close to us and were fascinated at the sight and soon their hands were feeling us ,playing with my wifes' breasts and my penis. Joan, to anyone into this sort of action if you have very close friends like who we have with whom you have been open in sexual matters try this because it is the biggest turn on any couple can have but yes, you have to know each other and trust each other.
Well after we finished our friends were eagerly wanting to do their thing so they prepared their dildo and we coached them as to how things should be done. The initial entry into the husband was slow as they admitted they had done it once right after buying the dildo so the muscles took time to relax but have you seen excitement when they were in our position. The wife explained that this was one of her real turn-ons - well, we did get out amongst our many nudist friends at the club over the week-end but there was always a weaked smile on the girls faces that must have begged some question why did they look so happy? Actually Joan, we did it three times over the week-end, the last time with both couples doing it at the same time. Driving home our friends thanked us almost all the way home for introducing them to our little secret. Already this morning my wife got a telephone call , the wife, again thanking us for the great week-end and inviting us over to their house and secluded pool for Dinner Wednesday night. We're wondering what they might have inmind?
One thing the girls have to be careful with is watch the rubbing and irritation of the clitorial area as otherwise you can be out of commission for a few days and missing all that sex action.
Thought your readers would like to hear the follow-up but say again..... only try this with very close friends with whom you have already walked that walk. I would recommend no swapping, I agree Joan that can spoil even the best relationship be it yours or the other partys.

Updated 6/02 [F] I had a very embarrassing situation with Ben Wa balls. I was about to take a long plane ride and thought I could relieve the boredom of such a long flight so I inserted the balls and they activated the metal detector. After checking all the obvious places I finally had to "come clean" and own up to what was setting the detector off. Was my face red!!!

Updated 5/02 [F] Ben Wa Balls are not really made for pleasure.. They are made to help a woman learn to use the muscles in the vaginia. You start by useing one and try to hold it in as long as you can until that gets easy then you move up to two and so on...... They really are not ment for anything other then that. I really hope this helps you out.

[M] I've always enjoyed using some sort of sensory depravation in our sex play. Blindfolding my wife is a favorite that often goes along with tying her up. Recently we took a trip and were staying in a nice hotel up on the 22nd floor. Nice view out on the city scape. One afternoon we started playing and without any good way to tie her, I decided blindfolding her would do. We always travel with a few scarfs so I picked one out and proceded to blindfold her.
She was still dressed so I had her undress while blindfolded. A little awkward but it was a turn-on for both of us. I could have had a room full of people and she wouldn't have known. I arranged a chair for her to sit in, led her over to it and sat her down. Two foot stools, one for each leg and she was very open. I helped her lift her hips and slide her pussy to the edge of the chair. I stepped back and walked around her just to gather the beautiful view. Afternoon sun, her naked and blindfolded sitting in a chair with her legs wide apart. The chair I faced towards the windows with an unobstructed view. Was anyone in the other buildings able to see in? I didn't know for sure but I hoped the could...
I left her for a few minutes to go and get ice. I told her not to move, not to peek. She was getting wet and her nipples were hard. I returned and fussed with the ice for a few minutes. She hadn't moved, her legs still spread wide. I came up from behind and iced her nipples. She arched her back as I ran the ice around her nipples and then down to her clit. I told her not to move as I came around and worked the ice on her clit and labia...
She heard me undress, unzip my pants. I told her to play with herself. I could tell she was surprised to hear that. I repeated my request "play with your clit, spread your pussy open"... both hands went down and with her right hand she spread her labia and with her left hand she began to stroke her clit. All the while she giving anyone who could see into our room a nice show, and she couldn't see a thing... I let her go for a good 15 minutes, she was very wet and moaning alot. I then got out one of our toys, a nice sized dildo and lubed it up. I lifted her right hand and placed it around the dildo. She let out an "oohhh" - I told her it was lubed and ready to go. She began working it in - again I stepped back and watch at the lovely sight.
30 minutes and two orgasms later she was done. I asked her how she liked masturbating while blindfolded and she just smiled. I removed the blindfold and told her it was a great show for me to watch, and maybe others...

Updated 4/02 [F] I had the most incredible Sex in my life and it took place with a blind fold.
I am a sensual person and very equal opportunity.. i met a fun couple and played with them i was blind folded and restrained.. before the blind fold went on I SAW ALL THE TOYS THAT THEY HAD.. Some where larger then life .. the sight of them excited me.. I was a captive adience.. they where touching me .. massaging me with oils and the smells and textures where SO ENHANCED..
So strange I DO NOT LET PEOPLE DETRACT MY FACULTIES.. Restrain me or hinder in anyway incapacitate any of my personal security..
yet.. i was secure.. they place items against me the texture the lips. the total SENSORY OVERLOAD.. I was therefor 16 hours.. I had an appointment i had to keep.. I went to the appointment and went back for another 6 hours..
THE absolute best ORGASMS in my SHY LIFE.. Hee hee

[M] I've been an avid wearer of metal cock-rings for years now. When sized correctly they give a constant "squeeze" that feels just right. I typically wear the type that is worn at the base, or behind the balls and around the base of the penis. It puts your whole "package" right there for all the attention it deserves - licking, sucking, stroking... My wife loves it when she finds it on me - "you're all ringed up" as she would say with a smile. I'm also completely shaved so it's all there to see and feel... I think I last longer with the cock-ring on, and when it's time to cum, it has more velocity on it, shoots further and it's more intense. I always pull out and cum on my wife. She loves to see how far it shoots. Sometimes I'll double up and wear a cock-ring that goes around the shaft of the penis as well as the big one that goes behind. That's a great look and feel too.
An easy way to get started is to go to your local hardware store and buy a few rubber O-rings that look to be the right size. Take them home and try them out. It's a very cheap way to figure out the correct size. Not so tight that you feel numb, and of course not so big that it falls off or you slip out easily. After you figure out the correct size checkout www.stockroom.com - they have a great selection of different types and they are very reasonably priced. I have the aluminum ones they sell. No seam, smooth all the way around and they come in colors too!
Try them out, I'll bet they become a regular part of your sex play.

Updated 3/02 [M] If a reader is still looking for a remote controlled vibrating egg, direct them to Xandria.com The remote egg should be at the top of the page. All I had to do was go to Xandria and input the word "egg" in the search window.

[F 32] I am a Passion Consultant and always extend my knowledge and expertise with reading and through conversations with other people and of course through experience. I offer Passion Toy In Home Parties to women and couples. Of course I also sell over 5000 Adult toys and Novelties online. I want to answer to a few of the recent questions.
C-rings: The variety of c-rings is endless. For new starters I highly suggest a jelly ring set, which is not only inexpensive but will definately give them the right start up feeling. Those c-rings are highly stretchable for any size or width. Placed on the base of his penis they hinder the blood to leave his penis. Restricting the blood flow will make him bigger by more swelling and of course he will also grow slightly thicker through the swelling. It is an excellent tool to keep an erection and to hold back on early ejaculation. Later after a couple found out the desire to use those they can proceed to the more advanced types of c-rings, leather, rubber, and metal. The ball stretchers, also called parachutes, don't do much for keeping the erection. Their are a BDSM product and even though some men do enjoy the stretching and slightly painful feeling it will not keep him harder, bigger and last longer if he is not using a restriction device directly for his penis. A! s with all toys please play senseably and responsible. Restriction of blood flow too long and too hard causes nerve damage which is in that area unrepairable. The c-rings start as low as $10.
Sleeve: For a sleeve that will increase his width I recommend the cyberskin sleeves, glow in the dark extensions and sleeves and for extreme increase of width the GIGI. All of those sleeves are silicon/jelly sleeves, 80% of them can be used as self masturbation devices. The GIGI for example is extreme useful toy for both female and male. The jelly sleeve can be used in and out of water, a bullet can be entered on one end for vibrating stimulation, it can enhance oral sex as well as vaginal sex for very endowed men and when the woman enjoys a large width of your member then slip GIGI inside of her and then slip into GIGI. Highly recommended and always enjoyed by partners GIGI is a multi-versatile toy for a very inexpensive price of $27.
vibrating cable free /remote control egg: Yes there are several different styles available. Please make a difference in
a) remote control bullets and eggs
b) remote control cable free bullets and eggs
c) remote control free / cable free bullets and eggs
Decide where and how you want to use this device and what size you desire. If the toy is used during intercourse you should choose a small device to ensure the vibration sensation but minimizing the danger of injury intra-vaginally. If you just want to give her a good time any remote control product will give her the time of her life. Please keep in mind that if you intend to use the toy inside you should opt for a waterproof one, to keep your toy lasting longer.

[F 42] Re: Intravaginal vibrating egg (remote controlled) Found one! www.storeforlovers.com Kinda expensive...at $110....but then...who can say what such pleasures are worth...*smile*

Updated 2/02 [M] Yes, we have opaque scarves, but our favorite blindfold is the buttery soft leather one. We never use it without first dressing it with leather creme. The aroma of the fresh leather is part of the experience.
The blindfold's purpose is simple; sensory deprivation. The subject cannot see what is about to happen. This can be the basis of all sorts of fun games. The blindfolded subject's genitals can be stimulated with edible items, which they get to eat/taste if they guess correctly. They can also be stimulated with most anything from feathers to fur and the feeling is enhanced by their lack of sight.

Updated 2/02 [M] I enjoy blindfold activities very much and fortunately my wife is willing to "play along" frequently.
A year or so ago I found the Eye Pajamas site on the Internet. These people sell sleep masks that are fun, and funny, non-threatening (not scary like some S&M sites' toys) and put the wearer in complete darkness. I do not know the site, but I reach it through the Blindfold Page by clicking on "links."
This year my wife and I were very busy and did not get some of the Christmas presents wrapped until we were both home. Since some of the presents are mine, she blindfolded me and had me help her wrap presents. (Hold this, put your finger here and so on). She had help, we spent time together, and I got the fun of an extended blindfold session.
My wife also has a free spirit long time girl friend who lives on a private farm. Thanks to them I have been treated to some very interesting outdoor blindfold activities from time to time.

[M 40] I have been blindfolded before and really liked it. It accentuates the sensation of touch while stimulating the imagination. I think my wife also liked it, because she had a certain amount of power and could threaten me; seeing me squirm when I considered that maybe she was crazy enough to really do my manhood in only increased her excitement.
I often fantasize about being blindfolded with a hood over my head and having a party of women, whom I may or may not know, all performing a group grope all over me. They would have no inhibitions, since it would be impossible for me to ever know their identities. Their collective excitement would stimulate each woman to do more than she would do if left on her own. They would work me over until I gave them a show by coming all over, then would kick me out. Whenever I saw a woman in the future, I'd never know if she was one of the ones, and if so, if she recognized me.

[F 36] A couple of years ago I purchased a blindfold. My husband and I have only tried it once. I love the anticipation of not knowing what was going on around me. It drove me crazy. When wearing the blindfold your other sences are enhance. You are able to feel, hear, and taste more. The thing with this is that you must be able to trust your partner.

Updated 1/02 [M] I've used various leather toys which fall under the description of "cockring" or "ballstretcher" or both. My favourite is a combination cockring/ballstretcher, with an extra strap for separating the balls somewhat (something I rarely do, but that's just me). Yes, it gives me harder, more intense erections. And when I went to a Tantric sex seminar in Toronto a few years ago, I learned that gently stretching the balls away from the body helps to delay ejaculation. Bonus! ;-) You can likely find leather cockrings (and ballstretchers) in any decent adult toystore, but I can personally vouch for having tried these products at both Northbound Leather in Toronto (www.northbound.com) and Leather Etc. in San Francisco (www.leatheretc.com), although I'm personally biased towards the Northbound Leather product.
If you have the choice of a leather product with snaps, vs. a rubber ring, go for the leather/snaps, as you always have a way of removing it without too much fiddling around. One bonus of having the cockring/ballstretcher combo, is that once you're thusly outfitted, your balls, instead of flopping around randomly, tend to swing back and forth like a bell clapper. Imagine if you will, a bonus percussion effect on your partner. *grins*

[F 23] We have tried (a cock ring) , just don't get the cheep vending machine ones they tend to fall off in very odd places. But, they are a lot of fun and I'm really sure if the lengthen the erection because if he has to climax he's going too, with or with out the ring, Delay gel is a good helper too.

[M] I personally haven't used it, but the electric tingly shocks toy is called the Violet Wand. You can find this on blowfish.com. (Don't confuse this with the other poster's reference to the Folsom Electric Company system, which is something completely different.)

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